Betwixt & Between

Yesterday I received an official cancer diagnosis – the biopsies of my right breast and lymph node were all positive for metastatic carcinoma, grade 2 of 3, consisting of “multi- centric disease involving approximately 8.5 cm of the superior right breast and metastatic right axillary adenopathy”.

While none of my healthcare team would officially say the “C” word before yesterday, I’ve been prepared for this for the past twenty days – when the Radiologist showed me the ultrasound which had been ordered to follow-up on some areas of calcification seen in a recent mammogram, described the size and location of the masses, and acknowledged that there was also inflammation of my lypmph nodes. It took over two weeks following that ultrasound to get the biopsy scheduled, and then another four days for the official results to filter through.

Now I wait. I already have referrals approved for both surgical and chemotherapy consults. But it is Thanksgiving Week, and no one is calling to schedule.

Dinner Conversation

DSC_0140At dinner Tuesday night, Myra announces, “If you listen to the words close enough, all songs are about love.”

“Really?” we ask.

“Sure,” she replies, and starts listing off songs ranging from “I Put a Spell on You,” by Jay Hawkins, to “Purple Haze,” by Jimi Hendrix to “Heart Attack,” by Demi Lovato.  Robert and I spend a few minutes calling out song titles, only to have Myra prove her theory.  We decided that even “Look Down” from Les Mis qualifies, because Valjean loved his family and didn’t want his nephew to starve, so he stole some bread and ended up a prisoner.

Robert leans forward and asks Myra, “So why do you think that is?”

“Because love is the secret of life,” is Myra’s instant response.

15 Degrees

A year ago, Robert and I set off for 8 days in Iceland, what we had planned to be our great adventure for the year (more about just how wrong we were with that prediction in an upcoming post).

Reykjavik is slightly more than 15º North of Spokane in latitude, and everyone we knew were shaking their heads over how we would set off for the extreme North in the dead of winter.  Sure, we had traveled to Yellowknife (also 15º North of Spokane) to get married, but that was on the Summer Solstice.

Arriving in Reykjavik was almost like coming home after a 35-year sojourn. This was my first visit to Iceland, but I had been stationed in Berlin in my  youth (back when the Cold War was still a very real thing, and long before the EU came into being), and I’d never forgotten the feeling of having found my place half-way around the world from where I had originated.

Sure, our time in Iceland was filed with typical tourist events:  we visited museums and galleries,  and took a Northern Lights cruise bus expedition. But my favorite parts of the trip were  when we headed off away from the tourist areas.  Our first day in Reykjavik, we tackled the bus routes and headed away from downtown to find a Nikon store located in a Reykjavik suburb, so Robert could buy another battery for his camera, as he forgot to bring the charger.  And there was the day we hiked around the harbor away from the tour boats and fancy restaurants, tromping through snow along the semi-industrial business district, to see what we could see.  We ended up on the edge of an empty pier, looking back at downtown and the Old Harbor, one of the major tourist destinations.165 Robert ventured out along the water line, while I stayed safe on solid ground.178.JPG

I’d love to return to Iceland soon, maybe next time during the summer when we can rent a car and travel the Ring Road (Route #1), the national highway that runs around the island and connects most of the inhabited parts of Iceland.

But Iceland will have to wait, as our next (as yet unscheduled) big trip will likely be to Morocco, another location roughly 15º in latitude distant from Spokane, just to the South this time.  (Texas is also 15º South, but given the current political climate, I’m pretty sure I’m safer in North Africa than I am in Texas.)

From the Ridiculous to the Sublime

Actually, reverse that.  At work yesterday, the kudos came before things devolved straight into silliness.

“Thanks Samantha.  Your competence and professionalism is always appreciated.   John.”

A bit of background:  last week before the New  Year’s holiday, one of the (many) projects I was working on was a private-money loan being funded by multiple lenders to a local business.  While all loans are a complex process, when you add multiple lenders to the mix the complexity levels up.  This was not particularly difficult loan – just a matter of getting all the pieces to fit together, being prepared, and then waiting for everyone else to do their part.

Things came together earlier than originally planned, and I was able to get the documents recorded with the County Auditor, the delinquent taxes paid before month-end, and the underlying lender paid off Thursday before the holiday weekend began, but just barely.  There was no time to finalize the loan or get the original documents sent out to the long-term escrow holder, so first thing Monday, that’s what I did.  As is my habit, I updated the lenders with signed-around copies of the loan documents, along with my instructions to the escrow company.  SOP as far as I was concerned.

Shortly after closing my file and moving on to the next project on my desk, I receive the message quoted above.

You know, a simple sentence of acknowledgment now and then is all I need to keep going sometimes.  I’m very lucky in that I often get positive feedback from my boss; but when the clients notice, that really generates the warm-fuzzies for me.

But lest I get too big a head about being so professional and competent, the universe reminds me that I’m still me, no matter how hard I try to be Mrs. Perfect.

My comeuppance occurred mid-afternoon yesterday, when my boss buzzed me to ask me to  get a letter out for him.  This was to accompany a package being sent FedEx so there was a small time-crunch to prepare the letter before the courier picked up.  No problem.  I inserted the dictation tape into my transcriber and I swear this is what he said:

“This is a letter to John Doe, Patient Processing Specialist, at XYZ Company in Texas…”

Now even before I listened to the text of the message to know what the subject of the letter was, I knew that “Patient Processing Specialist” was probably not this fellow’s job title.  But rewinding and listening  several more times didn’t change the words my brain was registering.

Since by then Boss-man was on the phone and I couldn’t just ask him what he actually said, I finished the letter, marked it draft, highlighted the suspect address line, and returned it to his in-box.  Knowing there was a deadline looming to finalize the letter, as soon as I saw he’d hung up the phone, I checked in to get his edits on the letter.

He read the letter and laughed.  The recipient of the letter is a Document Processing Specialist.  Which made perfect sense given the context, even though I’ve never before encountered the title (but Texas – they do everything a bit different there).

However, as is probably true for all writers, everything is story-fodder.  I now find myself compelled to find a use for a Patient Processing Specialist in one of my novels.  Feel free to co-opt this prompt yourself, if you can find a use for it.

 

 

 

 

 

The Year of Wonder

This year (2016) is my year of wonder.

I’m primarily focused on the the sense of awe or amazement that wonder entails, but I am also by nature a wondering animal.  I wonder about most anything that presents itself to my attention.

What if?“, “what’s next?”, “why?”, and “how is that possible?”  are frequent bits of wondering that run through my head, even though I’ve trained myself to keep the questions mostly to myself.  This year, instead of internalizing, you’ll find my fits of awe and wonderment here.

Yes, I have opinions, but more often, my opinions and beliefs are tempered by wondering if that’s all there is.  As you will see by my writing, I can have strong opinions, but I seek out different views, both to keep my sense of wonder alive and to remain as grounded in the real world as I can bear.

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Wonder

verb (transitive)

  • to think or speculate curiously;
  • to be filled with admiration, amazement, or awe;
  • to doubt

verb (intransitive)

  • to speculate curiously or be curious about; be curious to know;
  • to feel wonder at

noun

  • something strange and surprising; a cause of surprise, astonishment,or admiration;
  • the emotion excited by what is strange and surprising; a feeling of surprised or puzzled interest, sometimes tinged with admiration;
  • miraculous deed or event; remarkable phenomenon
  • Idioms
  • for a wonder, as the reverse of what might be expected; surprisingly.